“There are big questions about socio-economic inequality, race relations, and I feel lucky to have the luxury now to think about those things” she says. “I’m in my 50s. I’ve had a lifetime of experience, with political engagement at different levels, and lived in three countries. Lockdown has given me the time to think about how I can leverage that experience to make change.” … [Read more...] about The lockdown life-changers: six people on their 2020 transformations – from giving up gambling to getting fit
In the hours and immediate few days after Iain died, I turned to the memorial website built overnight by a kind colleague to celebrate my man’s life. A bewildered and floundering group of Iain’s closest friends and family immersed ourselves in a world of photos and memories and words and purpose. Three days later, all within half an hour, the website went live, an email to the worldwide Foreign and Commonwealth Office workforce went out and I put a “global announcement” on Facebook. “Informing friends of the deceased”, 21st-century style. I changed my profile to black, shut my laptop and left the house; the internet did its thing – with speed, breadth and a rush of wildfire. … [Read more...] about What happens to my late husband’s digital life now he’s gone?
None of which could be said about Death: The End Of Self-Improvement, the latest book by the spiritual teacher Joan Tollifson. That title alone is a bracing bucket of iced water to the head. Mortality is the ultimate reminder that our fantasies of someday finally becoming perfect are inherently absurd, because that’s not how the journey will end. All we have, in place of that imagined ascent toward perfection, is a succession of present moments – until, one day, we won’t have any more. And “when the future disappears,” Tollifson writes, “we are brought home to the immediacy that we may have avoided all our lives.” If you really want to be here now, forget flowers and sunsets. Contemplate death instead. … [Read more...] about Want to really live in the present? Embrace life’s nasty bits, too
My husband first suggested swinging after our children were born, and it took me 10 years to agree. At first, I figured he just wanted to have sex with other women. Then I decided that we should try it to get it out of his system. I didn’t realise how much I’d enjoy having sex with other men; I was instantly hooked. … [Read more...] about My life in sex: the ‘monogamish’ woman
In lockdown, we have been made to think about what is important to us, and we have had a lot of time to do it. What better recipe for making art can there be? What we found when making Grayson’s Art Club for Channel 4 was a huge outpouring of creativity: every week, thousands of people from every background sending us their artworks. As we come blinking out into the light, now is the time to leave a space in our lives to make art, whether we join a choir, a writing group, a quilting bee, a dance class, set up a studio in the shed or make funny videos on our phones. Make a little nest for your feelings about being alive, nurture them that they may fledge and fly. … [Read more...] about Grayson Perry: ‘As we come blinking into the light, leave a space in your life to make art’